Timothy Jay

Blog Post #9 (Part 2) Finding Your Family

Blog #9 (Part 2) Finding Your Family

Finding your family in the past could include some very reprehensible tree limbs. Folks, it’s the new year with new beginnings, right? So let me just say that along with eating healthier and doing more exercising, let’s get serious about what you want in “finding your family” in the present and the future. Researching the past was or is the easy part. That is Monday morning quarterbacking! It is time to make meaningful changes and create new habits that will find out who you were meant to be. You are the only one responsible for your branch. Do not try to blame someone else or reason away something you need to be personally responsible for. God may have created this world but evil was brought in by a representative choice (Adam and Eve’s disobedience). Should we be shocked that wrongdoing is a willful choice by man? No! Like most of my blogs I tell you it is a FIGHT.

I said a lot about slavery in Part 1. Please take time to read over it for context because it applies very much here.

I believe that the Lord God is a holy and righteous God who will judge the heart and actions of His creation (that’s us). The reason He can do this is He has spoken to each and every one of us in various ways through history. His Word has been given and will last forever. We (as part of a fallen creation) are the only ones who can look up from being trapped by the slavery of sin and cry out to God for His mercy and grace. You see, we are going to be a SLAVE. The question is to WHOM. The reality of good versus evil on a spiritual battlefield is happening. We often enjoy suspending reality to indulge such things as superheroes and sci-fi movies, but please understand that there are spiritual life and death choices that are in play as long as you have a breath.

God’s word (the Bible) is the one true authority. All the other old books that survive have historic significance, but no other has the authority in historic reliability and prophesy. There are numerous archaeological discoveries that confirm the Bible’s truth about itself historically. There are well over one thousand prophesies that confirm its authority, and the story of the survival of the Jewish people including God’s son, the risen Savior – Jesus – is God’s final authority. He is the Word made flesh (John 1:14).

In the Bible, there are some of God’s chosen that don’t end up looking so glowing.

Hummmm? Not a good look if you are trying to impress the masses. Oh, people fail?!?!?! Well then, who do they turn to?

Themselves – To keep their power. (selfish)
Others – To curry favor from the powerful. (selfish)
God for forgiveness and make it right. (selfless)

Ohhhhhhhhhh, OK. Sounds like God wants His creation to make another choice after human failing…. All God the Father wanted from the beginning was to be close to His “very good” creation and have a close relationship that they could depend on Him. When we don’t choose the things of God, we are choosing another master to serve.

The chapter of Romans 6 is full of this truth. Here are two:

6:16: “Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey – whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?”

6:22: “But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves to God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life.”

God’s Word is His Truth. It speaks to a lot of ways you can conduct yourself and please the Lord. But, you will not be able to do it 100% of the time. “For all have sinned, and fall short of the glory of God” Rom 3:23. What is our result? “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” Rom 6:23.

He sent his Son, Jesus, which lived a perfect life to be the sacrifice in our place that a holy God demands. Please know there is more than what your physical eyes can see. You better look down into “your tree” past the roots to your very soul where each one of us daily, moment by moment, must decide who we will serve. It’s your choice; no one else’s. I hope when you are in a quiet place, you will hear the Lord’s voice again that continues to ask; “Who will you serve? Who will you follow? Who is your Master?”

For me, with God’s grace and strength, I can say for myself and the legacy of my family the words of Joshua at the end of Joshua 24:15. “… As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

Sounds like an anthem of the will. A purposeful obedience to show who the Master is!

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Blog Post #8 (Part 1): Finding Your Family

Blog #8 (Part 1): Finding Your Family

Do you have a famous Revolutionary War hero or perhaps a matriarch from the old country who led the fight for better hospital conditions in your family history?

Genealogy and family history are as popular as they have ever been. With the popularity of DNA and ancestry match services, one can explore areas from the past and get clues where to continue the historical hunt. It is a thrill to find these family connections to a shining past. It makes you sit up straighter, walk a little taller; but let’s not forget about the discovery of those in the family that did not choose a path of virtue. It is hard to learn about an unfaithful father seven generations ago who left ten kids and later the records show he became a common criminal and died penniless alone in prison. A situation like that makes me wince and feel pity and anger at the same time.

There is also another category that EACH and EVERY one of us has in our family histories. Some more recent than others and even some families are facing it worldwide currently… SLAVERY.

Let me please make a point that I believe God placed on my heart and this is in no way to be political. When I mention slavery as an American, we automatically think about slavery in this country. It is natural but please let me explore the issue deeper. I hope when you read this blog you will agree that this has been handled “apolitical” which means “without political attitudes, content, or bias.” Ultimately those that read this piece will be the judge at which time I hope to receive some comments and/or shares.

Slavery has been on the world stage from early history as soon as nations and groups began to exert their power over those who could not defend themselves, were defeated in war, or were negotiated against. There is NO ethnic group, territorial tribe group, or religious people that have been immune from the grip of slavery at some point in human history. I have enjoyed the study of history and archaeology but I did not consider how common and widespread slavery was for thousands and thousands of years. I definitely now see the shortcomings of my thought process in the evaluation of these societies during their rise and fall of power. In reading the Bible and other historic documents you can discover the massive numbers of slaves that were controlled by the Babylonian, Egyptian, Assyrians, and Persian Empires during the ancient world days. They would win battles and take over great areas of land and their people. The Israelites also participated in slavery. Let us not forget about the places in other parts of the world during the life of Christ and during the next millennium that were conquered and the people enslaved throughout the Roman, Greek, and Ottoman Empires along with every region of Europe in the Dark and Middle Ages. In continuing our global travel, we can mention that the hand of the powerful among the Asian continent and the subcontinent of India have had a prolific history with slavery. To finish the sweep we go over to South America where slavery was active in all early cultures.

There is no doubt in the Colonial Era that Africa was a common target for the West and Near East for slave labor. The days of conquering a people through military force for the purpose of slave labor was diminishing but the “new age slavery” (my quote) had only just begun. This new age is built on the premise of an exchange of something of “value” for a commodity – a human. As warped and evil as that sounds, it is what history shows.

If 1900 can be considered the start of the Modern Era, then we can point to all the forced labor (SLAVERY) that continued to exist during the reign of sanctioned and official governments worldwide. I cannot even stop there with the cold war, iron curtain and mysterious third world Asian continent. How about TODAY? The evil of slavery is still with us today. It is estimated to be over 30 million people worldwide in forced labor and prostitution. That is a lot of family history that is disgusting and shattered. Sadly, there are many places in this whole wide world where genealogy is not an activity of wonderment. There are long-term scars with short-term life spans. Who wants to discover that? We all should. SHINE THE LIGHT! I pray for fathers and mothers everywhere to have a righteous anger of protection for their families.

To finish this blog “part 1”, I want to say that you and I do not have control of what our family history looks like, but we sure have control of what our individual history looks like and trust me someone several generations down the road will be studying us and making judgments on our character. I pray every day that mine is Christ-like and pleasing to Him.
TO BE CONTINUED….In January, after the holidays.

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Blog Post #7: Male Pattern Calmness (also for the ladies...)

The glory decade for professional wrestling would have to be the 1980s. It could be argued that Hulk Hogan was as big of name as Ronald Regan and Michael Jackson world-wide. The target demographic for “rass-ling” were preteen and teenage boys along with their fathers. So why didn’t I succumb like my friends around me to getting into all the colorful costumes, characters, and dramatic rage? Well in a word – RESPECT.

For anyone who yells his head off without a life or death reason (and there are very few of them but certainly the military qualifies, in my opinion), I do not respect you or your approach. Whether it is a neighbor, teacher, coach, athlete, or even a steroid filled actor playing an athletic role in a leotard, you have lost me.

So having “set the scene” for this post, let me continue with my narrative of why calmness for everyone is a great Christ-like trait. I believe flying into a rage is a very natural human response when wronged, but I also believe it is ultimately a very immature one both socially and spiritually.

Life happens; the good, bad, and ugly. When our first response is to crank up the blood pressure and let out a tirade to get even or ahead, then a teaching moment is lost. A theme in my blog posts are about doing the easy/natural versus the Christ-like response. Jesus continues to be so very patient with us and our flaws, but he wants to see us lean on Him and the attributes of the Spirit which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal 5:22).

How does God see those who allow themselves to explode into a manic-rage?

Not too well. He sees them as FOOLS (Proverbs 29:11). “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” We are warned to get “rid of all forms of anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.” (Col 3:8).

Using Jesus as our perfect example, here are a few techniques that He used when dealing with people, even the Pharisees/religious leaders who Jesus called out as “brood of vipers and hypocrites” for their sanctimonious ego and self-appointed positions of power.

Jesus asked a lot of questions. Questions are a good way to flesh out any misunderstandings. Be the calm one throughout so you can strip the emotion out and begin the problem solving.
Jesus dealt with people in a calm but confident voice and demeanor. He always knew how to “read the room.” When the religious phonies needed to be called out, He did so. Then early in His ministry when the temple (“my Father’s house”) needed cleared out due to the filthy practices of a market, He did so with very few words. Some situations call for direct action and that was one in no uncertain terms. Reading this text in John 2, I get the impression, He had no trouble with the Jewish leaders trying to stop Him, because His authority was (and is) righteous and they ULTIMATELY KNEW IT. That set the battle ground for them.

How about us? I think in our heart of hearts we know His authority also. Do we bow or do we scheme to keep our “power.” I’ll save more about that for another post.

Jesus made every situation a teaching moment. He truly connected with people. He allowed them to make the conclusions, to own their decisions. Still happens today!

The goal has to be our purposeful examination of self and how we can glorify God in the difficult circumstances that we face. Will we keep our cool? – It’s a fight! Satan would love for anger and rage to be on constant display in our lives. When we are angry and raging, we are not letting God speak to us for His wisdom. We again are just being foolish in His eyes.

The passage in Colossians, again chapter three, goes on to say in verses 9 and 10 this;

“Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.”

Let us strive to keep away from our old self and put on that new self that is in the image of God! So with your new self you can get into the ring with any “rassler” because your Creator always wins and that I will always RESPECT.

And by the way… I knew better than to ask my Dad about going to any professional wrestling match. The wrestling match would have been with hay bales. I would have found myself up in the haymow with the bales coming at me DOUBLE TIME! Not fun….

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Blog Post #6: How Much Should I Tip Jesus?

Have you ever had the misfortune of having a poor waiter/waitress/server? I mean the kind of person who makes you feel like you are interrupting their day by showing up for a relaxing sit-down meal with family or friends.

Poor service in this post has everything to do with the server not the kitchen staff. Calling it poor service might be generous because it would be easy to characterize it as no service. Your party is escorted to the table and the host/hostess hands you the menus to study. After deciding between what form of protein and carbs you are in the mood for, you begin to chat with your party to alleviate the silence so no one can hear your stomach trying to add to the conversation. Many times a raised hand or menu can summon someone with a restaurant badge or apron but other times you are sitting in what seems like a vortex of employees being repelled from where you sit. You may or may not even have your complimentary glass of water as you continue to wait, unfortunately forgetting the name of the dish that sounded delicious 15-20 minutes earlier.

Another example of this no service can take the form of not keeping the drinks full or not checking back to see how the server can enhance your dining experience. If you ever have had an unfortunate server experience, my suggestion is to wait until the final bill comes to settle up with a small or no tip. Please don’t try and make a pithy point or settle a score before the food comes out. The server is the last one to handle the plate with your food. Just use your imagination what could happen… most very very revolting.

There are of course a lot of other customer service areas that we encounter in our society such as haircuts, telephone customer service rep, and retail store clerks. The basic thing any customer wants or should demand is “reasonable service.” This by all accounts is a fair exchange.

Well in the book of Romans, Chapter 12, Verse 1 (KJV), Paul writes:

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God,

that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable

unto God, which is your reasonable service.”

Paul urges the believer to be different from the society around us. It is so easy to let your body (eyes, ears, mouth, and hands) participate in so many ungodly or worldly activities. This is a very natural response. But remember the Lord wants us to be “living sacrifices – holy and acceptable to Him. The message of the New Testament is to be more and more Christ-like and less and less like the world. Be His disciple and go and follow Him. Remember if Jesus is your living holy Lord, then strive to make choices that demonstrate your heart toward Him.

Now my final thought, which is one that I haven’t heard explored with this passage. Paul puts the crosshairs of the gospel message directly at the heart of every believer – “which is your reasonable service.”

The Lord Jesus did something so magnificently selfless for us – The God of all Creation and Heaven allowed Himself to be formed in flesh (accepting human limitations), then after He lived a perfect life, He redeemed us from our sin with His death, burial, and resurrection. He provided His Everlasting Word/The Bible, for our instruction as well as leaving the Holy Spirit for our counsel. With this wonderful plan that a holy God poured out, there are still people time and time again who deny Him and please themselves.

I’m guilty – It’s a fight…

Let’s stop. Be still. Remember God’s mercies – and do things that please Him. Be Christ-like!

Why?

We should all expect reasonable service.

Question: Do you think you can go to church or a Bible study once a week? Do you think you can check on an elderly neighbor regularly? Do you think…?

Do you think those and other things are REASONABLE?

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Blog Post #5: Let Me End The Superhero Debate!

They are all lame! Please don’t stop reading…

How can I say that? I had several sets of superhero pajamas and lunch boxes as a little guy. I watched all the cartoons through the 70’s of the Super Friends and wished I could be a fly on the wall in the Hall of Justice. I used to lie in my bed and wonder what power I would want. Getting bit by a radioactive spider or even getting caught in a gamma ray blast would be acceptable if you looked good in green and who doesn’t like getting new clothes when you bust out of them due to your swollen muscles.

So why am I “dissing” superheroes?

I enjoy a great fictional tale, after all that’s what genre I like to write in; but when I saw that all Superman had to do was fly “superman-fast” to reverse the spin the world and go back in time and save Lois Lane then I knew it was time to move away from those “other universes” and focus on this one. Superhero movies make me think someone else needs to be the one to fix the problem of the day. Too many people have the mentality that they can’t be the one to make a difference and that is not true. What people need today is more availability than ability and more awareness than personal intellect. Also, let’s not waste time looking for a phone booth to change into, there are very few around anymore. If it’s time to act, then it’s time for you to be SUPER and make a difference.

I told you why I “hate” superheroes, but now I need to tell you why my super hero is better than yours. Didn’t I say that I “hate” superheroes? Yes! But, look close…. The word I used has a SPACE between it; super hero not superhero.

So who is my favorite super hero? It is my Dad. Jim Tressel (not the coach – but I’m sure he is a super guy…) James K. Tressel is my super hero.

Just a few examples why he is my super hero:

● He loves the Lord

● He loves his wife

● He loves his family

● He provided safety and security in a home of love and discipline

● He demonstrated work ethic

● He prays for the Lord’s direction and favor

● He tries to live Christ-like with the “super power” of the Spirit of God.

“For God, who said, ‘Let light shine out of darkness,’ made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of God’s glory displayed in the face of Christ. But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.” (2 Cor. 4:6-7)

My Dad has this “all-surpassing power” and he told me about it and shared the Scriptures with me. I believe it and try to live it also.

Happy Father’s Day, Dad!

PS. If your super hero is your dad, then I will smile, nod my head, and will be glad you made that choice; but I will also have to AGREE TO DISAGREE that yours is better.

Here’s to all the super hero dad’s out there – You make a difference with your life every day!

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